• Be Good, Do Good, Every Single Day

October 03, 2017 3 Comments

Yesterday I felt overwhelmed by sadness, hopelessness, and frustration.  I was horrified by the news of the shooting in Vegas as I woke up.  I couldn’t peel myself away from the news.  Then I saw an image that just magnified the situation….a girl laying in a pool of blood in her jean shorts.  It hit me hard that it could have been me.  As I looked at the photo while I sat waiting in the Dr's office for a yearly physical I felt almost numb.  So, I started to write.  I pounded out a blog about the horror, the hate and that I had no idea what to do.  Writing about my feelings seemed to be the only way to feel a little less helpless.  I wrote about how that could have been me.  How that could have been any of us.  I wrote about replacing the hate with love because that is all I could think of.  While I haven’t even gotten around to getting it posted, today, I have something different to say….

Today my worry is bigger.  Today I am not worried that it could have been me.  Today I am worried that the next target is the ones I love.  Today I worry that the next victims could be my children, who are an extension of my heart.  If anything ever happened to them it would break my heart.  My purpose as a parent is to care for them, love them, teach them to love and keep them safe, and today, I am not sure I can do that.  Today I woke up to messages of fear and terror at home.  Last night somebody started texting parents in the neighboring school district that their kids would be killed at school the next day.  Text messages to parents of all ages of kid.  These were terrible messages, promising imminent death.  The school district canceled classes there for the day, but our school was still in session as the threat was not directly to us.  I woke up to a flurry of messages on the social media group pages about moms who were keeping their kids home today to keep them safe.  I chose to trust the decision of our Superintendent and sent my kids to school.  I dropped them off and told them I loved them.  And now, here I sit, worried sick.  It’s not just today that worries me.  What about tomorrow?  What about the day after that?  What about our next trip to the ball stadium, the movie theater or a concert arena? 

Just like in the story I wrote yesterday, I still don’t have the answer.  The worry is worse.  The fear is bigger. I can’t protect myself from everything and I most definitely can’t protect my kids from the evils of the world.  But, I can arm them with the best defense that I can think of and that is to be good and do good, every single day.  Since they were big enough to talk, my husband has led them through the same prayer at night and he always ends with “be good, do good.”  Today his words ring louder in my ears than ever before.  Today I will teach good by doing good.  Today I will show even greater respect for others thoughts and feelings. Today I will give a smile to people I know and ones I don’t…you never know how much good that smile will spread. Today I will love deeply and tell the ones I love how much I care for them.  Today I will respect myself and I will speak up for the things that I care about. By doing these things today I will (hopefully) teach my kids tomorrow that the world is full of love and to not let the hate win, even on days where it feels like it already might have. 




3 Responses

Jala Hill
Jala Hill

October 06, 2017

I agree. Love wins! We must be examples to our children so they understand that good exists in the world. Love the phrase!

Kari Cox
Kari Cox

October 06, 2017

As a parent and a grandparent, I feel exactly the same way! I would like nothing better than to keep them safe and secure right here on the farm, but I know that is not possible. The best thing I can do is keep them covered in prayer. Very well said, Marji!
I absolutely love the phrase, “Be Good, Do Good, Every Single Day”. Y’all should put that on a t-shirt. I would wear it proudly! Thank you for what you do. God Bless!

Deanne Frieders
Deanne Frieders

October 06, 2017

Yes! This is so true – we need to show others by our example to “be good, do good”. And that phrase will be incorporated into our household as well.

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